A possible relationship suggestion for those going through some stress…

This was just a relationship idea I pondered a while back for people going through some issues… 

Especially if you both dealing with stress… not even stress with one another, but personal stress as well… stress that may then spill over into the relationship… 

But I think about those red and green bracelets they use for people with some mental conditions sometimes…. 

I would say that you should set up general rules of what is expected from each other as far as chores and things like that… cooking arrangements… whatever… 

Then if you are feeling stressed and not in the mood to talk, or you feel you may end up saying things you shouldn’t if you engage with the other person… you turn your bracelet to red… If both of you, or even one of you has red showing, don’t engage each other… not even at dinner or anything really… But, when both of your bracelets are turned to green, then you could use that as a time to engage with each other… 

If you or your relationship has gotten to this point, it would also probably not be the worst idea to also be working with a therapist individually to help you get through your issues at the same time… perhaps a couple’s therapist occasionally or one where you only do it as a group occasionally… 

Doing this doesn’t necessarily mean your relationship is in trouble… rather one of you or both of you may just be going through some things individually that need to be taken care of to help your relationship in the long run… 

A little idea anyways… this of course sparks up much more relationship advice in my head… but I will save those for another day!