It’s ok to not be happy with the way you look right now…

I am much more in favor of teaching acceptance rather than delusion when we are not happy with our physical bodies… 

Everyone that struggles with weight should read the book, “The Compass of Pleasure” by David J. Linden. In part of the book he tackles weight from a more psychological point of view. They contend that our minds are all genetically wired to want a certain amount of fat in our bodies. Which there is evidence that shows that when our fat dips below our brains desired amount, our brain will actually make our metabolisms slow down and make us start to crave more food. This is why many people may feel really hungry one month, but the next month not feel that hungry at all and may find it easy to lose a few pounds. There studies show that while many peoples weight fluctuates throughout the year, year after year it tends to average out. There are obviously exceptions to all rules as some eating might be the result of stress and things like that. I was personally 50 pounds over my brains desired amount, but it sure let me know. I never felt that good and I started to get all sorts of physical sensations when I ate certain foods, and my brain kept making me think I had diabetes… when I lost the 50 pounds I started to feel much better mentally and physically… my brain still lets me know when I eat foods it doesn’t like… Linden would argue that a 600-pound person doesn’t have the fat restrictor plate in our brains that the vast majority of us have. 

I say this to start with the idea that battles with weight are often losing battles… that it is genetics… that many people, literally no matter how hard they try, will always be around a certain weight, their brain will do everything in its power to see to it, even if that means slowing down their metabolism so it is easier to put on fat. 

Now to my acceptance part… I actually don’t like the growing trend of trying to delusion ourselves to see ourselves as the most beautiful person in the world physically… Most everyone has a natural idea in their head of what is physically most pleasing… it is mental torture in a way to try and delusion ourselves day after day to change what we see as physically attractive… it is just a belief that is very much at the core of us… It is mental torture to fight your brain like that, it is a losing battle… 

You need to look at your body here as just a biological shell while you are on this planet… I joke that if I was heavy, I would call myself “Trans Fit”, a physically fit person living in a heavy-set body… that when I get to heaven, I will have the body I always wanted and one that I can change when I see fit to my own liking… In heaven we can probably change our bodies like we change our hair if you get my drift… 

You should look at your body here as more your cross to bear for this small amount of time… I once heard a person describe this as living this life on hard mode… we all know that physically attractive people have had advantages for sure, no denying it. 

You should try to become very confident on a soulful level… and accept this biological shell you are beholden to for a while. 

Speaking as a man that has certain qualities that he finds physically attractive… pretty standard ones as deemed by society… If I were to date someone that doesn’t meet those qualities, let’s say a heavier set woman… I would much rather that they saw themselves as a fit person living in a heavy body. I don’t think I could spend my life with someone that keeps trying to make me delusion myself to see them as the most physically attractive person I have ever seen. I would like to see them as the most beautiful soul I have ever met… but it sounds like torture to me, to try and delusion myself day after day, trying to convince myself that you are extremely physically attractive. Especially if you can’t be happy if I don’t see you as the most physically attractive person ever… 

Some people that really start to fall in Love may come to actually like that you are stuck in a heavy body while you are here… often times when people fall madly in love with someone, they start to wish that their partner wasn’t physically attractive to anyone else anymore. One of our goals becomes getting through this life without cheating on each other until we get to heaven and our love is protected by God. 

It is just this short little period of time when we are all obsessed with being seen as the most beautiful person in the world by someone… Nobody is in their 80’s saying, this is the body I want for eternity… You know what I mean… It is a short period of time here and a blip on our eternal timeline… 

I just don’t think this growing movement of trying to make everyone delusion themselves is a good thing… I am much for preaching acceptance and just looking at our bodies as a temporary biological shell we have for a while… to accept and be fine with not being your ideal self right now or the worlds ideal look… what we find physically attractive is so built into us, it is a part of who we are… I think it is torture to try and delusion ourselves day after day… 

It is much healthier to learn acceptance than delusion ourselves… 

The world also needs to realize that weight is out of the control of most people… I think a large part of our non-acceptance stems from love that comes out in some bad ways sometimes. We all know that heavier people on average don’t tend to live as long. I think deep down we want to see everyone live forever… it is a little like watching a drug user to some extent, it can be a harsh reality for a lot of people to accept… 

Acceptance people… 

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